Own The New Year: Change Your Life by Taking 100% Responsibility
DID I HEAR YOU SAY NEW YEAR, NEW YOU?
OWN THE NEW YEAR: CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY TAKING 100% RESPONSIBILITY
Success doesn’t just happen.
Successful people are almost always focused, motivated, and decisive. You know what else? They own their actions. From their fitness to their work and even their relationships, successful people “own it.”
Why? Because when you take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and actions, your inner and outer energy, you are really claiming your power. You are putting yourself in control. For some people that sounds intimidating and nearly impossible. But if you aren’t happy with every aspect of your life, the universe is telling you it’s time to make a change and that begins by owning your choices.
Harsh Truth: Your results are absolutely the result of your actions, so if you don’t like the way you feel about your life—be that at work, in your relationship, with your children, or even in your own skin—the only person who can change that is you.
Blaming and complaining is taking the easy route no matter how you cut it; we are almost conditioned to point the finger at outside influences every time we find ourselves in an unpleasant situation. We sit at a desk in a job we hate. We shovel cookies down our mouths and be mad that we can’t zip our jeans. We look longingly at the couple in the park holding hands while we scroll on our phones and browse the next social media post. And we point to someone or something else as the source of our dissatisfaction when our real purpose is to look within in pursuit of our own happiness.
Take the three examples I just gave. Let’s dissect each one.
You’re stuck in a job you hate. You feel trapped by the money, your bills, health benefits, etc. The first step to achieving transformation is asking yourself, “How do I make this job work for me?” or an even more radical approach, you identify what you really want to do and start taking steps to do it? Enroll in a class. Talk to your boss about restructuring your position. Start interviewing and asking for what you’re truly worth. Nothing changes unless you change it.
You don’t love your body. The truth is you are a mindless, habitual, or stress-eater. You may blame holidays and a heavy workload like I once did to avoid the difficult adjustments necessary for change. But maybe, if you said, “This is MY body and I want to love it,” and you owned every bite you put in your mouth, your jeans would loosen up and you would finally start feeling the self-love you desire. As much as it sucks to admit it, you make the choice to eat the sugar and you make the choice to go to the gym. Your health, like every other part of your life, is your responsibility and if you’re not happy, only you can change it.
You see couples looking happy, connected, and in love but you feel disconnected and isolated. You blame your job, the children, or your partner for how dissatisfied you feel. What if you looked at how your actions create distance? Are you setting down your phone and turning off the TV to interact with the people you love? Are you making thoughtful gestures and communicating your desires clearly without anger or blame? You CAN have the relationship you want but it takes your full commitment and a willingness to accept 100% responsibility for your half.
The unifying principle in all three of those scenarios is that failing to embrace your responsibility keeps you stagnant in an unhappy place; for things to get better you have to identify the problem, want it to be different, and own it. If you want something better for yourself, you can absolutely make it happen. I’m saying the first step is to recognize you’ve had the power all along.
Looking at your life without the goggles of blame can be painful. But the pain is short-lived if you use it as a lesson for making better choices and not to beat yourself up in the process. Don’t lower your energy in the happenings of yesterday. The past is gone and the present is fleeting, but the future is abundant with possibility.
Do you want a better life?
Are you tired of where you are?
Do you think you deserve more?
It’s time to let go of all the excuses you’ve used to keep you stagnant and claim your life. Once you take back your power and you begin to own your success, you will be amazed at how much stronger and braver you start to feel. All that blame and fear will finally transform into self-love and empowerment. That’s a truth I think we can all hear.
The very first step toward changing your life and making it better is taking 100% responsibility for the whole amazing thing. Own it.
Start by doing the pre-work of shifting your mindset by joining our Ready 4 Change 5-Day Challenge - - mindset shift to a healthier you. It's totally free and we start on Jan 11th. LINK TO SIGN UP —https://mailchi.mp/77af8a78507a/challenge